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What is fear?
Gladys defined fear as the fear of inadequacy and the fear of rejection.
(Please see
Understanding Fear for a more in-depth discussion.)
Fear as presented by Gladys is not the same as fear from a real threat
or a present danger. The fight or flight response is not being
questioned here, as fear in this context is necessary and often a
protection from harm. The fear we refer to from the Gladys concept is a
psychological or illusory fear that interferes with one’s peace of mind
and one’s joy in living. It keeps one from experiencing a life that is
of value, first to the person experiencing it, and then to others who
are touched by this person’s actions and beliefs.
Understanding how fear works is a key component of the Gladys concept
and will be discussed many times throughout these pages. For the present
it would be helpful to understand that when fear is in your thoughts,
there will also be an accompanying emotion of anger, jealousy, or hate,
or you will be behaving in a way that causes you to doubt yourself and
others, distrust yourself and others, feel you need to defend yourself
from others, or go on the offensive to avoid being hurt by others. In
all of these cases, understand that there is no real threat or
danger—only a perception (sometimes subconscious) that without these
“defenses,” you would feel vulnerable and out of control of your life.
Release your fear
Gladys taught a method of overcoming fear in your mind. It is very
simple; therefore many tend to discount the method. However, to make
changes in the pattern of thinking that may have been your habit for
years and years, the method of releasing fear could provide a major
breakthrough for you. This is what you do: you say or think “release my
fear.”
You say these simple words every time you are worried, every time you
have a doubt, every time you have negative feelings or thoughts about
yourself or someone else, every time you catch yourself being angry. You
will begin to find a pattern. Many ways of releasing fear will be
described in these pages.
What does releasing fear do? What correction is made? Saying this
affirmation releases the fear in your mind and in its place your have no
fear (therefore no negativity) to bring into the next thought. As you
use this method, you will have more and more times where you don’t
experience fear and this will lead you to peace of mind.
If you do not have fear in your mind, then you are able to respond and
react without fear to the next life situation that presents itself. You
are able to respond and react in a manner that is beneficial to you and
to those with whom you come in contact. You are able to respond and
react in a manner that will not make the situation worse and could
easily make it better.
Tools to use to overcome fear
The basic tool is very simple: Say or think, “Release
my fear.” (Please see Understanding Fear for a more detailed
discussion of fear.)
Monitor your thoughts, emotions, or actions to see if you have fear.
Persistent negative thoughts; emotions of anger, jealousy or hate; and
actions that are self-defeating or hurtful to others are indicators that
you have fear. Release your fear if you are demonstrating any of these
things.
After you’ve released your fear, you might next realize you have a need.
You might have a need for more information, or you might need for
someone else to take some action before you can take any action. You
might have a need to solve a difficult problem with another person.
Whatever your need, if it’s not clear what you are to do, simply say or
think, “Fill my needs.”
Let’s say you have a problem. You need the answer or solution to your
problem. You say or think “I need an answer.”
or “The solution is in the making.”
Continue to “release your fear.”
Monitor your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Has your mind stopped its
constant worry, its constant chatter? If so, you don’t need to do
anything. But, your mind could be saying, “What if this happens?" or
“What if I don’t do such and such?” It could be trying to justify your
actions by saying “but, I didn’t do anything” or “but, it was her fault,
not mine.” Your mind could be full of doubt, and you might hear yourself
saying, “Maybe I should have done this” or “Maybe I should have bought
this car instead of the one I bought.” If you hear yourself saying,
“but,” “what if,” or “maybe,” chances are you have fear.
Once again, if you go back to having fear in a thought, stop that
thought by releasing your fear.
If you have doubts or fears about something that may happen in the
future, demand that you have peace of mind.
(Please see Search Answers
on Peace of Mind.)
You can see how repeating these demands is actually retraining your mind
on how to think. You may have had fear-filled thoughts for so long that
that’s the only way your mind wants to function. Now you are changing
the pattern, and it will take some practice.
We have discussed several tools. You can say:
1. Release my fear.
2. Fill my needs.
3. I don’t understand, or The solution is in the making.
4. I demand peace of mind.
Use these tools to adjust your mind. Use these tools to give you peace
of mind. Use these tools to create a new way of thinking through a
problem or improving a situation.
Try it. It works.
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